What are the major marriage killers in contemporary marriage?

According to Dr. James Dobson:

“Beware of the danger of overcommitment and physical exhaustion . It is especially harmful for young couples who are trying to get started in a profession or in school.  Do not try to go to college, work full-time, have a baby, manage a toddler, fix up a house and start a business all at the same time.  It sounds ridiculous, but many young couples do just that and are then surprised when their marriage falls apart.  Why wouldn’t it?  The only time they see each other is when they are worn out!  It is especially dangerous to have the husband vastly overcommitted and the wife staying home with a preschooler.  Her profound loneliness builds discontent and depression and we all know where that leads.  You must reserve time for one another if you want to keep your love alive.”

Oh man.  We are walking on a thin line.

5 responses to “What are the major marriage killers in contemporary marriage?

  1. I can’t tell if you are being serious or tongue-in-cheek with your ending comment, but I think Dr. Dobson has got it right. If you ever need a babysitter, even if it’s just to take a nap or go running, call me!

  2. I would say it’s a dotted line! My mother in law always says the universe has everything switched up – everything is crammed into one set of productive years – we should be ‘retired’ while we raise children and then work after. If only it could work that way! I love your blog by the way!

  3. Sort of tongue in cheek, sort if panic. I think it is exactly right but I also don’t know how else life could be for us. The pressure and adversity makes us stronger.

  4. Luckily you are both committed tightrope walkers and you make it work even if it logically looks like it shouldn’t. Press forward with a prayer in your hearts and you will be glad.

  5. I find that in our busiest, most stressful times, it becomes most necessary for us to re-embrace the concept of a Sabbath. I first heard the idea of a modern-day, non-Jewish Sabbath (that is still devoted to and dependent on God), from the book “Sabbath Keeping”, by Lynne Baab.
    It is the fact that God will sustain us on that 7th day that allows us to be able to step back and rest even though our work is not yet done.

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